One of the most difficult things about living in the 21st century, is the high expectation on our physical appearance. Plastic surgery obsessed celebrities, the fashion industry only using size zero models, the media criticizing anyone who dares put on an extra pound. Over the last 20 years in particular, perception of beauty has become even more warped than it was before. And I didn’t think that was possible.
Deny it all you want, but we’ve all fallen victim to insecurity, when we’ve seen a picture of Beyonce with her perfect skin, or Jennifer Aniston with that glorious hair. The pressure to stay young and beautiful is enough to drive us all to our beds, playing FoxyBingo on our laptops, and eating chocolate. Lots of chocolate.
It makes me feel awful for children, particularly young girls. Childhood should be about running around and making the most of our carefree years. Instead I hear of more and more young girls, some as young as seven, obsessing over their looks.
Being self conscious about my looks was definitely something that occurred when I hit puberty. That’s probably true for most of us. It’s like one day, we look in the mirror and suddenly, all we can see are our imperfections.To this day I don’t know what caused that change, but I suspect it’s something to do along the lines of we wanted to be attractive to others for the first time in our lives, at a time of our lives when we’re probably looking our worst! And as I said, the media helps along our process of insecurity in a way it never used to. Just think about the recent brouhaha with Ashley Judd. There’s a beauty in imperfection that seems to have been lost over the years due to photoshop, reality stars, and a general obsession with celebrity. Forget about growing old gracefully. Those who try are mocked.
I for one am here to tell you — it’s all just perception, and that’s what needs to change. Not you. Not you at all.
So, I’m giving you permission to be who you are. Without guilt. Without insecurity. Bypass that mirror for just one day and see how free you feel.
You know, we only get one life, and to spend it obsessed with our looks is really and truly a waste.